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Love Quote by Saint Augustine

"What I needed most was to love and to be loved, eager to be caught. Happily I wrapped those painful bonds around me; and sure enough, I would be lashed with the red-hot pokers or jealousy, by suspicions and fear, by burst of anger and quarrels"

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Need, not virtue, is doing the driving here: Augustine frames love as a hunger so acute it turns captivity into comfort. The line is almost scandalously physical for a future saint. He wants to be "caught" - not merely chosen or understood, but seized. That verb turns romance into a trap, and then he delivers the twist that makes the passage work: he "happily" wraps the bonds around himself. The subtext is self-indictment. No villain is required; the self becomes accomplice to its own misery.

Augustine is writing with the hard-won authority of someone who has watched desire masquerade as freedom. The metaphor escalates from bonds to "red-hot pokers", yanking the reader out of any sentimental reading of love. Jealousy, suspicion, fear, anger: he catalogs the emotional machinery of possession, where love becomes a surveillance state and the beloved becomes evidence. The pain isn't incidental; it's proof the attachment is real. That's the psychological trap he wants you to see.

Context matters: in the Confessions, Augustine is retrofitting his earlier life into a moral narrative of disordered loves (cupiditas) versus rightly ordered love (caritas). He isn't condemning affection; he's diagnosing misdirected longing. The passage is persuasive because it refuses to glamorize youthful passion even as it admits its pull. Augustine makes the uncomfortable claim that we sometimes choose the chain because it feels like belonging.

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Saint Augustine (November 13, 354 - August 28, 430) was a Saint from Rome.

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