"What we find in a soul mate is not something wild to tame, but something wild to run with"
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The subtext is quietly anti-romcom. So much cultural storytelling treats love as renovation: you smooth each other’s rough edges, trade quirks for compatibility, prove devotion through self-editing. Brault argues the opposite kind of commitment, one that says: I won’t make you smaller to make us easier. “Run with” is the key verb - kinetic, egalitarian, unromantic in the best way. It implies pace-matching, consent, and stamina. Not “lead,” not “save,” not “fix.” Just move together, fast enough that pretense can’t keep up.
Contextually, this sits in the late-20th/early-21st-century pivot toward self-actualization as a romantic expectation: partners as teammates in becoming, not guardians of propriety. It’s a philosophy of love that prizes freedom without drifting into detachment, making a case for relationship as mutual expansion rather than mutual containment.
Quote Details
| Topic | Soulmate |
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| Source | Later attribution: Sanctuary (Patrick Barrett, Susy Flory, 2022) modern compilationISBN: 9781496445001 · ID: 1NRUEAAAQBAJ
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... What we find in a soul mate is not something wild to tame , but something wild to run with . ROBERT BRAULT ABOUT A YEAR INTO MY RECOVERY , I met someone else who prayed . Her name was Eileen , and she was the beautiful girl in the ... |
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Brault, Robert. (2026, March 4). What we find in a soul mate is not something wild to tame, but something wild to run with. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/what-we-find-in-a-soul-mate-is-not-something-wild-183915/
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Brault, Robert. "What we find in a soul mate is not something wild to tame, but something wild to run with." FixQuotes. March 4, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/what-we-find-in-a-soul-mate-is-not-something-wild-183915/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"What we find in a soul mate is not something wild to tame, but something wild to run with." FixQuotes, 4 Mar. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/what-we-find-in-a-soul-mate-is-not-something-wild-183915/. Accessed 24 Mar. 2026.










