"When a man gets up to speak, people listen then look. When a woman gets up, people kook; then, if they like what they see, they listen"
About this Quote
Frederick was an actress, and the show-business context matters. Onstage, your body is literally part of the instrument; offstage, it becomes the entire audition. Her observation isn't abstract feminism, it's occupational realism: women were asked to earn credibility twice, first through visual acceptability, then through competence. Men, meanwhile, are granted the luxury of being disembodied voices before being bodies.
The subtext is also about power and timing. "Gets up to speak" evokes public space - podiums, meetings, rehearsal rooms - arenas that historically trained audiences to hear male confidence as substance. Frederick is pointing at a habit of perception so ingrained it feels like common sense: attractiveness as prerequisite, charisma as consolation prize, intelligence as bonus content.
There's wit here, but it's the kind that arrives with a bitter aftertaste. The line lands because it captures a social algorithm still recognizable today: women are rendered and rated before they're heard, and the evaluation pretends to be polite attention.
Quote Details
| Topic | Equality |
|---|---|
| Source | Pauline Frederick , quote attributed on Wikiquote: "When a man gets up to speak, people listen; then they look. When a woman gets up to speak, people look; then, if they like what they see, they listen." |
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Citation Formats
APA Style (7th ed.)
Frederick, Pauline. (2026, January 14). When a man gets up to speak, people listen then look. When a woman gets up, people kook; then, if they like what they see, they listen. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-a-man-gets-up-to-speak-people-listen-then-160986/
Chicago Style
Frederick, Pauline. "When a man gets up to speak, people listen then look. When a woman gets up, people kook; then, if they like what they see, they listen." FixQuotes. January 14, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-a-man-gets-up-to-speak-people-listen-then-160986/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"When a man gets up to speak, people listen then look. When a woman gets up, people kook; then, if they like what they see, they listen." FixQuotes, 14 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-a-man-gets-up-to-speak-people-listen-then-160986/. Accessed 5 Feb. 2026.







