"When I was 21, I stopped and got married. I tried for a while to be the perfect wife, society this, society that, but it wasn't working, so after about a year I went back to work"
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The key phrase is “society this, society that” - an eye-roll turned into shorthand. It’s not just that “society” is pressuring her; it’s that the pressure is so predictable it’s almost boring. That casual repetition is the subtext: she’s not battling a singular villain, she’s swatting away a whole fog of expectations about domestic femininity. “Tried for a while” and “after about a year” compress the timeline, suggesting how quickly the fantasy of perfection reveals itself as labor with no clear reward or identity.
Context matters: as an actress, Zadora is talking from inside an industry that historically punished women for aging, motherhood, or stepping out of a marketable persona. “Went back to work” isn’t just economic independence; it’s a return to self-definition in a world where marriage often tries to rebrand women as someone’s accessory. The intent reads less like rebellion for its own sake and more like a quiet insistence on adulthood: if a role doesn’t fit, you change the script.
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| Topic | Husband & Wife |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Zadora, Pia. (2026, February 17). When I was 21, I stopped and got married. I tried for a while to be the perfect wife, society this, society that, but it wasn't working, so after about a year I went back to work. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-i-was-21-i-stopped-and-got-married-i-tried-109433/
Chicago Style
Zadora, Pia. "When I was 21, I stopped and got married. I tried for a while to be the perfect wife, society this, society that, but it wasn't working, so after about a year I went back to work." FixQuotes. February 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-i-was-21-i-stopped-and-got-married-i-tried-109433/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"When I was 21, I stopped and got married. I tried for a while to be the perfect wife, society this, society that, but it wasn't working, so after about a year I went back to work." FixQuotes, 17 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-i-was-21-i-stopped-and-got-married-i-tried-109433/. Accessed 26 Feb. 2026.




