"When I wrote my book, I wanted to love someone. I wanted to be in love. Now I know that I shall never be in love - and I no longer wish to be"
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The subtext is less heartbreak than self-preservation. “I shall never be in love” reads like a diagnosis delivered after repeated symptoms: craving, performance, disappointment. But the most radical clause is the last one: “and I no longer wish to be.” That’s not resignation; it’s a reallocation of power. She’s rejecting the era’s default script for women - that fulfillment must route through romantic devotion - and she does it without pleading for sympathy. The sentence is engineered to deny the reader the usual comforts: no tragic soulmate, no moral lesson, no softened edges.
Context matters: MacLane wrote at the turn of the 20th century, when women’s interior lives were policed and “confession” could be both scandal and strategy. Her intent feels double: to expose the hunger that made her write, and to demonstrate that hunger can be outgrown. The statement doesn’t celebrate lovelessness; it exposes how exhausting it is to keep wanting what society insists you should want.
Quote Details
| Topic | Heartbreak |
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| Source | Help us find the source |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
MacLane, Mary. (2026, February 16). When I wrote my book, I wanted to love someone. I wanted to be in love. Now I know that I shall never be in love - and I no longer wish to be. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-i-wrote-my-book-i-wanted-to-love-someone-i-165454/
Chicago Style
MacLane, Mary. "When I wrote my book, I wanted to love someone. I wanted to be in love. Now I know that I shall never be in love - and I no longer wish to be." FixQuotes. February 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-i-wrote-my-book-i-wanted-to-love-someone-i-165454/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"When I wrote my book, I wanted to love someone. I wanted to be in love. Now I know that I shall never be in love - and I no longer wish to be." FixQuotes, 16 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-i-wrote-my-book-i-wanted-to-love-someone-i-165454/. Accessed 19 Feb. 2026.









