"When I'm not near the girl I love, I love the girl I'm near"
About this Quote
The specific intent is double: charm the listener with an apparently candid vulnerability while smuggling in a justification for emotional (or literal) wandering. "The girl I love" sounds singular and sincere, but the second clause quietly reveals love as interchangeable, a verb that attaches itself to whoever happens to be within reach. It's a lyric that performs self-awareness: the speaker knows how flimsy he sounds, so he leans into the rhyme and rhythm to make flimsiness feel like honesty.
Context matters. Harburg wrote in an era when popular music thrived on clever innuendo and urbane cynicism - the interwar and mid-century stage where romance was often presented as a game smart people play to avoid looking needy. The line flatters the audience for catching the joke, then implicates them: who hasn’t, at some level, let proximity do the choosing? It works because it refuses the grand myth of devotion and replaces it with something more embarrassing, more human, and therefore more memorable.
Quote Details
| Topic | Romantic |
|---|---|
| Source | "When I'm not near the girl I love, I love the girl I'm near" , Yip Harburg; cited on Wikiquote (Yip Harburg page). |
| Cite |
Citation Formats
APA Style (7th ed.)
Harburg, E. Y. (2026, January 15). When I'm not near the girl I love, I love the girl I'm near. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-im-not-near-the-girl-i-love-i-love-the-girl-111573/
Chicago Style
Harburg, E. Y. "When I'm not near the girl I love, I love the girl I'm near." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-im-not-near-the-girl-i-love-i-love-the-girl-111573/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"When I'm not near the girl I love, I love the girl I'm near." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-im-not-near-the-girl-i-love-i-love-the-girl-111573/. Accessed 6 Feb. 2026.





