"When someone is HIV-positive and his partner says, I want to have sexual relations with you, he doesn't have to do that. But when he does, he has to use a condom"
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The intent is surgical: protect life without appearing to rewrite doctrine. Danneels isn’t selling condom use as liberation; he’s framing it as an obligation triggered by foreseeable harm. The subtext is a quiet challenge to absolutism. In the AIDS era, “no” is not the only moral option; minimizing damage can be a form of responsibility. That’s a consequentialist argument smuggled into a deontological institution, wrapped in the language of duty (“has to”) rather than permission (“may”).
Context matters: European Catholicism in the 2000s was wrestling with credibility amid public health crises and a rapidly modernizing sexual culture. Danneels, often seen as part of a more pragmatic wing of the Church, is speaking to couples who are already choosing intimacy. The quote admits an uncomfortable reality: moral teaching that refuses to engage with actual behavior risks becoming performative. By making condom use mandatory in this scenario, he recasts compassion as prevention - a pastoral move that tries to keep doctrine upright while bending its posture toward survival.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Danneels, Godfried. (2026, January 17). When someone is HIV-positive and his partner says, I want to have sexual relations with you, he doesn't have to do that. But when he does, he has to use a condom. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-someone-is-hiv-positive-and-his-partner-says-60842/
Chicago Style
Danneels, Godfried. "When someone is HIV-positive and his partner says, I want to have sexual relations with you, he doesn't have to do that. But when he does, he has to use a condom." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-someone-is-hiv-positive-and-his-partner-says-60842/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"When someone is HIV-positive and his partner says, I want to have sexual relations with you, he doesn't have to do that. But when he does, he has to use a condom." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-someone-is-hiv-positive-and-his-partner-says-60842/. Accessed 10 Feb. 2026.




