"When women love us, they forgive us everything, even our crimes; when they do not love us, they give us credit for nothing, not even our virtues"
About this Quote
The intent is less to flatter women than to diagnose (and dramatize) how social judgment sticks. In Balzac’s world, reputation is fluid, moral categories are negotiable, and the salon is a courtroom. Love, he implies, isn’t just a feeling; it’s a form of narrative authority. If a woman loves you, she edits your story to preserve coherence: the crime becomes a “mistake,” the scandal becomes “misunderstood.” If she doesn’t, even virtue reads as performance, a suspicious act. That is a cynical insight about perception, but it’s also a self-serving one: it shifts responsibility away from the man (“I’m good, you just won’t see it”) and frames women as the arbiters of male worth.
Context matters: Balzac is writing in a 19th-century France where marriage, patronage, and social mobility are tightly braided, and women often exercise power indirectly, through endorsement or refusal. The subtext is anxiety about dependence. The novelist who mapped society’s transactions can’t resist turning romance into credit and debt - and revealing how quickly “morality” becomes whatever the watcher decides it is.
Quote Details
| Topic | Love |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Balzac, Honore de. (2026, January 15). When women love us, they forgive us everything, even our crimes; when they do not love us, they give us credit for nothing, not even our virtues. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-women-love-us-they-forgive-us-everything-11715/
Chicago Style
Balzac, Honore de. "When women love us, they forgive us everything, even our crimes; when they do not love us, they give us credit for nothing, not even our virtues." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-women-love-us-they-forgive-us-everything-11715/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"When women love us, they forgive us everything, even our crimes; when they do not love us, they give us credit for nothing, not even our virtues." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-women-love-us-they-forgive-us-everything-11715/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.







