"When you are seventeen you aren't really serious"
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The line works because it sounds like a shrug but carries an accusation. “Aren’t really serious” isn’t “don’t feel deeply.” Seventeen is all feeling. Lerner’s point is that the feelings haven’t been stress-tested. At that age you can afford moral absolutism because you’ve had little exposure to trade-offs that make adults cautious: rent, illness, consequences that don’t reset after summer break. Seriousness, in Lerner’s implied definition, is not intensity; it’s durability.
There’s also a sly adult self-portrait embedded in the claim. It comforts older readers by turning their compromises into wisdom, their diminished appetite for risk into maturity. Coming from a journalist, it doubles as a warning about rhetoric: the most passionate voices are not always the most responsible ones, and a society that mistakes youthful fervor for settled judgment is easy to whip into crusades.
The sting is that we recognize ourselves in it, even if we’d prefer not to.
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| Topic | Youth |
|---|---|
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Lerner, Max. (n.d.). When you are seventeen you aren't really serious. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-you-are-seventeen-you-arent-really-serious-120196/
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Lerner, Max. "When you are seventeen you aren't really serious." FixQuotes. Accessed February 2, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-you-are-seventeen-you-arent-really-serious-120196/.
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"When you are seventeen you aren't really serious." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-you-are-seventeen-you-arent-really-serious-120196/. Accessed 2 Feb. 2026.








