"When you can't remember why you're hurt, that's when you're healed"
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The intent is almost pragmatic. Fonda isn’t romanticizing suffering as character-building; she’s describing a mental shift that anyone who’s crawled out of something recognizes. At first, pain has a sharp index finger: it points to a person, a moment, an injustice. Over time, if healing takes, the finger relaxes. The event may still be factually knowable, but it stops being the organizing principle of your day. Forgetting the “why” becomes shorthand for no longer needing an explanation to stay intact.
The subtext carries a gentle provocation: if you’re still fluent in the grievance, you might still be renting space to it. That’s especially resonant coming from Fonda, whose public life has been built on reinvention under scrutiny - celebrity, activism, backlash, comeback, and the long arc of being misunderstood in high definition. In that context, “healed” doesn’t mean vindicated. It means unhooked.
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| Topic | Letting Go |
|---|---|
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Fonda, Jane. (2026, January 17). When you can't remember why you're hurt, that's when you're healed. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-you-cant-remember-why-youre-hurt-thats-when-51433/
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Fonda, Jane. "When you can't remember why you're hurt, that's when you're healed." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-you-cant-remember-why-youre-hurt-thats-when-51433/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"When you can't remember why you're hurt, that's when you're healed." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-you-cant-remember-why-youre-hurt-thats-when-51433/. Accessed 3 Feb. 2026.









