"When you don't have anybody to take care of you, then you could go both ways: You could do whatever you want, or you could take charge and be your own parent"
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Her phrasing is deliberately plain, almost conversational, which is part of the intent. She’s not performing trauma; she’s naming a practical psychological problem: when no one is reliably holding the boundaries, you have to decide whether to live boundaryless or build them yourself. “Do whatever you want” isn’t coded as fun here; it’s coded as drift, impulse, self-medication, the kind of autonomy that can be mistaken for power. The other option, “take charge,” carries a harder emotional cost: self-parenting means becoming the person who enforces bedtime, budgets, and self-respect - not because it’s inspiring, but because it’s necessary.
The subtext is also about class and early adulthood, especially in industries that reward precocity and don’t offer much scaffolding. For a young actor (or anyone who becomes economically “adult” before they’re emotionally ready), caretaking gets outsourced to managers, schedules, or the public’s expectations - none of which love you back. Lawrence’s appeal has long been her resistance to polish; this quote continues that brand of candor while sneaking in something sharper: resilience isn’t an identity, it’s a job you’re forced to apply for.
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| Topic | Self-Discipline |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Lawrence, Jennifer. (2026, January 16). When you don't have anybody to take care of you, then you could go both ways: You could do whatever you want, or you could take charge and be your own parent. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-you-dont-have-anybody-to-take-care-of-you-110620/
Chicago Style
Lawrence, Jennifer. "When you don't have anybody to take care of you, then you could go both ways: You could do whatever you want, or you could take charge and be your own parent." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-you-dont-have-anybody-to-take-care-of-you-110620/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"When you don't have anybody to take care of you, then you could go both ways: You could do whatever you want, or you could take charge and be your own parent." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-you-dont-have-anybody-to-take-care-of-you-110620/. Accessed 25 Feb. 2026.








