Creativity Quote by Stephan Jenkins

Jenkins draws a blunt line between sex as performance and intimacy as privacy, and he does it in the slangy, locker-room register that makes the pivot land harder. “Shagging girls” isn’t just a description; it’s a posture. The phrase reduces partners to props and turns the act into something you can narrate for social credit. In that mode, talking isn’t confession, it’s branding: proof you’re desirable, reckless, experienced. The brag is part of the hookup.

Then the sentence snaps: “once it gets real.” Real means emotional stakes, vulnerability, the terrifying possibility that someone can hurt you back. The subtext is that intimacy changes the rules of speech. You stop performing for the room and start protecting the thing itself. Silence becomes an ethical move (don’t exploit someone else’s privacy), but also a self-protective one (don’t jinx it, don’t invite judgment, don’t turn a relationship into content).

As a musician, Jenkins is speaking from inside a culture that rewards oversharing while punishing sincerity. Rock mythology loves the tally sheet; it’s less comfortable with tenderness that can’t be ironized. The line quietly indicts that economy: casual sex is easy to narrate because it keeps you in control, while “real” connection makes you accountable. There’s also a tell here about masculinity: men are taught to be loud about conquest and quiet about care. The quote doesn’t fully escape the objectifying setup, but its emotional truth lands anyway: the moment you actually value someone, you stop using them as a story.