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Time & Perspective Quote by Kim Wilde

"When you're together with someone for some time, you will automatically depend on them as if they were a crutch. And then it ends"

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Dependence is the dirty little secret hiding inside a lot of romance narratives, and Kim Wilde names it with the bluntness of someone who’s watched the montage stop mid-song. The phrase “automatically depend” matters: she’s not talking about melodramatic neediness or a single bad choice. She’s describing a slow, unchosen drift, the way routines fuse two people into one operating system. You don’t wake up deciding to outsource your emotional balance; you just do, because it’s efficient, because intimacy rewards it, because the world is exhausting and a shared life can feel like relief.

Calling the partner “a crutch” is the hard turn. A crutch is useful, even necessary, but it also implies injury and imbalance. It suggests the relationship has become less about desire and more about compensation. Wilde’s pop-era sensibility sharpens the point: love isn’t framed as moral growth or spiritual destiny, but as a habit-forming structure that can quietly weaken the muscles you need for being alone.

“And then it ends” lands like a dropped needle. No grand betrayal, no lesson neatly learned - just the fact of rupture. The subtext is almost cautionary: if you build your life on someone else’s steadiness, the breakup isn’t merely sadness, it’s disability, a sudden recalibration of daily identity. Coming from a musician whose work sits in the emotional economy of hooks and heartbreak, the line feels like an anti-hook: it refuses catharsis. It’s the moment after the chorus, when you realize the scaffolding you leaned on was never guaranteed to stay.

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APA Style (7th ed.)
Wilde, Kim. (2026, January 17). When you're together with someone for some time, you will automatically depend on them as if they were a crutch. And then it ends. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-youre-together-with-someone-for-some-time-54705/

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Wilde, Kim. "When you're together with someone for some time, you will automatically depend on them as if they were a crutch. And then it ends." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-youre-together-with-someone-for-some-time-54705/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"When you're together with someone for some time, you will automatically depend on them as if they were a crutch. And then it ends." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/when-youre-together-with-someone-for-some-time-54705/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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Kim Wilde (born November 18, 1960) is a Musician from England.

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