"Where I once believed people were there to be used, I started thinking of other people first"
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The turnaround is equally unglamorous: “I started thinking of other people first.” No grand confession, no public penance, just a shift in attention. It’s the language of habit, suggesting that ethical growth isn’t primarily a feeling but a practice. The subtext is that exploitative living often hides in plain sight, dressed up as ambition, charisma, even “networking.” By naming it as use, McDowell refuses the comforting story that harm only comes from villains. It comes from ordinary self-centeredness with good branding.
Contextually, McDowell is known for Christian apologetics and evangelism, and the quote reads like a testimonial of conversion ethics: the old self treated relationships as instruments; the new self treats people as ends. It also functions rhetorically as an invitation rather than a lecture. He doesn’t shame the listener; he models a before-and-after that’s hard to argue with because it’s specific, personal, and unadorned. The intent isn’t to win a debate - it’s to redefine what “success” costs, and who pays.
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| Topic | Kindness |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
McDowell, Josh. (2026, January 16). Where I once believed people were there to be used, I started thinking of other people first. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/where-i-once-believed-people-were-there-to-be-92076/
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McDowell, Josh. "Where I once believed people were there to be used, I started thinking of other people first." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/where-i-once-believed-people-were-there-to-be-92076/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Where I once believed people were there to be used, I started thinking of other people first." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/where-i-once-believed-people-were-there-to-be-92076/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.










