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Love Quote by Oscar Wilde

"While we look to the dramatist to give romance to realism, we ask of the actor to give realism to romance"

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Wilde’s line lands like a neatly flicked wrist: it flatters the theater’s magic while quietly exposing how artificial that magic is. The playwright, he suggests, is hired to “romance” the real - to take the clunky facts of life and arrange them into a shape that feels inevitable, witty, even beautiful. Realism, on its own, is just weather; the dramatist turns it into climate, giving it pattern and pleasure.

Then Wilde reverses the current. Once romance has been fabricated on the page, the actor’s job is to smuggle it back into credibility. The actor must make the heightened thing - coincidence, confession, melodrama, love at first sight - feel as though it’s happening for the first time, to a person who has no author to protect them. It’s a sly division of labor: writers are allowed to lie, but actors must tell those lies with the physical honesty of breath, timing, and embarrassment. Romance becomes convincing only when it is performed with the texture of the real.

The subtext is classic Wilde: an aesthetic manifesto disguised as a practical note. He’s defending artifice by insisting it requires discipline. In the late-Victorian moment, when “realism” was becoming a moral yardstick and theater was accused of being frivolous, Wilde reframes the whole quarrel. Realism isn’t virtue; it’s raw material. Romance isn’t escape; it’s a crafted illusion that still demands truth - not in facts, but in feeling.

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Wilde, Oscar. (2026, January 17). While we look to the dramatist to give romance to realism, we ask of the actor to give realism to romance. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/while-we-look-to-the-dramatist-to-give-romance-to-26981/

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Wilde, Oscar. "While we look to the dramatist to give romance to realism, we ask of the actor to give realism to romance." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/while-we-look-to-the-dramatist-to-give-romance-to-26981/.

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"While we look to the dramatist to give romance to realism, we ask of the actor to give realism to romance." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/while-we-look-to-the-dramatist-to-give-romance-to-26981/. Accessed 19 Feb. 2026.

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Oscar Wilde

Oscar Wilde (October 16, 1854 - November 30, 1900) was a Dramatist from Ireland.

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