"Why do we work so hard to feel so terrible"
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The intent feels less like self-pity than a demand for accountability - not from coaches or fans, but from the whole system that sells suffering as virtue. Athletes are trained to treat pain as data and exhaustion as proof of seriousness. The subtext is that this training doesn’t stop at the body. It colonizes mood, identity, even self-worth. If you’re constantly chasing marginal gains, “terrible” becomes a baseline state you learn to tolerate, then normalize, then defend as necessary.
What makes the question work is its trapdoor simplicity. There’s no metaphor, no inspirational spin, just a blunt cost-benefit audit. It also quietly widens the frame beyond sports: the same logic powers workplace burnout, hustle-brand self-optimization, and the social-media performance of “discipline.” Stacy isn’t rejecting effort; she’s rejecting the idea that misery is the entrance fee for legitimacy.
The line hangs there unanswered because the answer is uncomfortable: we work that hard partly because we’re rewarded for it, and partly because we don’t know who we are without it.
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| Topic | Work-Life Balance |
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Stacy, Hollis. (2026, January 15). Why do we work so hard to feel so terrible. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/why-do-we-work-so-hard-to-feel-so-terrible-170862/
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Stacy, Hollis. "Why do we work so hard to feel so terrible." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/why-do-we-work-so-hard-to-feel-so-terrible-170862/.
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"Why do we work so hard to feel so terrible." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/why-do-we-work-so-hard-to-feel-so-terrible-170862/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.











