"Wisdom ceases to be wisdom when it becomes too proud to weep, too grave to laugh, and too selfish to seek other than itself"
About this Quote
“Too grave to laugh” is the companion warning, aimed at the sanctimony of seriousness. Gibran is suspicious of the wise person who treats levity as beneath them, as if joy were intellectual betrayal. Laughter here isn’t distraction; it’s perspective - a refusal to let the self become the center of the universe. The wise are not those who never break, but those who can bend without snapping.
The final clause, “too selfish to seek other than itself,” exposes the real villain: self-enclosed wisdom, knowledge pursued as self-regard. Written by a Lebanese-American poet shaped by exile, spirituality, and the early 20th century’s disillusionments, the sentiment reads as both pastoral and corrective. Gibran’s intent is to re-ethicize intelligence: wisdom proves itself in empathy, humility, and relational curiosity, not in domination or detachment. The subtext is blunt: if your “wisdom” can’t cry, can’t laugh, can’t look outward, it’s just ego with better vocabulary.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Gibran, Kahlil. (2026, January 15). Wisdom ceases to be wisdom when it becomes too proud to weep, too grave to laugh, and too selfish to seek other than itself. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/wisdom-ceases-to-be-wisdom-when-it-becomes-too-17379/
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Gibran, Kahlil. "Wisdom ceases to be wisdom when it becomes too proud to weep, too grave to laugh, and too selfish to seek other than itself." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/wisdom-ceases-to-be-wisdom-when-it-becomes-too-17379/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Wisdom ceases to be wisdom when it becomes too proud to weep, too grave to laugh, and too selfish to seek other than itself." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/wisdom-ceases-to-be-wisdom-when-it-becomes-too-17379/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.











