"Wives in their husbands' absences grow subtler, And daughters sometimes run off with the butler"
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The specific intent is double-edged. On the surface, it’s a comic observation about what “happens” when husbands are away. Underneath, it’s Byron’s broader project of puncturing respectable society by exposing how little it takes for virtue to become performance. “Grow subtler” isn’t a compliment; it’s a sly acknowledgment that women, boxed in by surveillance and expectation, develop tactics. The line doesn’t just wink at infidelity; it hints at the intelligence required to navigate a world where female desire must be coded, hidden, plausibly denied. Meanwhile, “daughters…run off with the butler” flips class hierarchy into a punchline: the household’s most rigid boundaries (chastity, lineage, rank) collapse in one comic sprint.
Context matters: Regency Britain was obsessed with propriety, yet fueled by gossip, divorce trials, and libertine intrigue. Byron, notorious in his own right, understood that scandal is a social currency. This couplet isn’t merely naughty; it’s a critique of a culture that manufactures temptation by insisting on innocence, then pretends to be shocked when the servants know the secrets.
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Byron, Lord. (2026, January 22). Wives in their husbands' absences grow subtler, And daughters sometimes run off with the butler. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/wives-in-their-husbands-absences-grow-subtler-and-13043/
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Byron, Lord. "Wives in their husbands' absences grow subtler, And daughters sometimes run off with the butler." FixQuotes. January 22, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/wives-in-their-husbands-absences-grow-subtler-and-13043/.
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"Wives in their husbands' absences grow subtler, And daughters sometimes run off with the butler." FixQuotes, 22 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/wives-in-their-husbands-absences-grow-subtler-and-13043/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.









