"Women love us for our defects. If we have enough of them, they will forgive us everything, even our gigantic intellects"
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The subtext is classic Wilde: courtship as performance, gender as theater, and sincerity as the one unforgivable faux pas. Men, in his telling, want their brilliance recognized; women, he suggests, understand that brilliance often arrives packaged with vanity, coldness, and self-regard. So defects become a kind of social lubricant, proof you are safe, human, and manipulable - a way to disarm the masculine ego without openly attacking it.
Context matters. Wilde is writing from the pressure-cooker of late-19th-century respectability, where marriage is a social contract and conversation is a competitive sport. His epigram punctures the pretension that intellect makes men superior. It is also self-mythmaking: Wilde, the celebrated mind, recasts himself as someone lovable not despite but because of his flaws, slyly asking the audience to forgive him in advance. The joke lands because it feels both cynical and true: we do not fall for resumes; we fall for the crack in the armor.
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Wilde, Oscar. (2026, January 14). Women love us for our defects. If we have enough of them, they will forgive us everything, even our gigantic intellects. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/women-love-us-for-our-defects-if-we-have-enough-37157/
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Wilde, Oscar. "Women love us for our defects. If we have enough of them, they will forgive us everything, even our gigantic intellects." FixQuotes. January 14, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/women-love-us-for-our-defects-if-we-have-enough-37157/.
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"Women love us for our defects. If we have enough of them, they will forgive us everything, even our gigantic intellects." FixQuotes, 14 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/women-love-us-for-our-defects-if-we-have-enough-37157/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.







