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Love Quote by Oscar Wilde

"Women love us for our defects. If we have enough of them, they will forgive us everything, even our gigantic intellects"

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Wilde turns romance into a rigged parlor game, then wins by changing the rules. The line starts as a compliment to women and ends as a jab at men, but the real target is the Victorian cult of masculine seriousness. By claiming women "love us for our defects", he flips the era's moral bookkeeping: virtue is no longer the currency of affection; charming failure is. That reversal lets him smuggle in the punch line - "even our gigantic intellects" - where intellect is framed not as an achievement but as an obnoxious liability that needs forgiving.

The subtext is classic Wilde: courtship as performance, gender as theater, and sincerity as the one unforgivable faux pas. Men, in his telling, want their brilliance recognized; women, he suggests, understand that brilliance often arrives packaged with vanity, coldness, and self-regard. So defects become a kind of social lubricant, proof you are safe, human, and manipulable - a way to disarm the masculine ego without openly attacking it.

Context matters. Wilde is writing from the pressure-cooker of late-19th-century respectability, where marriage is a social contract and conversation is a competitive sport. His epigram punctures the pretension that intellect makes men superior. It is also self-mythmaking: Wilde, the celebrated mind, recasts himself as someone lovable not despite but because of his flaws, slyly asking the audience to forgive him in advance. The joke lands because it feels both cynical and true: we do not fall for resumes; we fall for the crack in the armor.

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Oscar Wilde

Oscar Wilde (October 16, 1854 - November 30, 1900) was a Dramatist from Ireland.

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