"You can change friends but not neighbours"
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The intent is pragmatic, almost chastening. Vajpayee was speaking from the vantage point of a leader who carried both the burden of partition and the responsibilities of a nuclearized subcontinent. In that context, the aphorism becomes a critique of romantic geopolitics. You can court distant partners, but you still have to wake up every day next to Pakistan, China, Nepal, Bangladesh, Sri Lanka. The subtext is that Indias grand strategy cant be built on vibes and photo-ops in faraway capitals; it has to begin with managing friction at the perimeter.
Theres also a quiet moral pressure in the phrasing. "Neighbours" implies proximity, permanence, even a thin obligation. It nudges the listener toward restraint and engagement: talk when its unpopular, trade when its politically risky, de-escalate when chest-thumping is easy. Vajpayee understood that strength isnt only deterrence; its the stamina to pursue coexistence without illusions. The line works because it reads like common sense while pointing at an uncomfortable truth: for India, peace and progress are local projects before they are global aspirations.
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