"You can only hate someone whom you have the capacity to love, because if you are really indifferent, you cannot even get up the enough energy to hate him"
About this Quote
The quote’s intent is quietly therapeutic and distinctly spiritual. Chinmoy isn’t excusing hatred; he’s demystifying it. By calling hate an “energy” you have to “get up,” he makes it sound less like a principle and more like a painful investment. Indifference, by contrast, is the true emotional void: it requires no narrative, no rehearsed grievances, no inner monologue that keeps the other person in starring role. Hate keeps the bond intact, even if it’s a bond made of barbed wire.
The subtext is also a provocation to self-audit. If hatred signals “capacity to love,” then the hateful person is not emotionally dead; they’re emotionally stuck. That reframes conflict as misdirected attachment, a failure of integration rather than a failure of feeling. It’s a classic move in Chinmoy’s broader context: he wrote as a modern guru-philosopher in a postwar, psychologically literate era, when spiritual language increasingly borrowed from the vocabulary of affect and healing.
What makes the line land is its blunt, almost physiological realism. Hate isn’t grand. It’s effort. And effort reveals desire.
Quote Details
| Topic | Love |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Chinmoy, Sri. (2026, January 15). You can only hate someone whom you have the capacity to love, because if you are really indifferent, you cannot even get up the enough energy to hate him. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-can-only-hate-someone-whom-you-have-the-7734/
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Chinmoy, Sri. "You can only hate someone whom you have the capacity to love, because if you are really indifferent, you cannot even get up the enough energy to hate him." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-can-only-hate-someone-whom-you-have-the-7734/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"You can only hate someone whom you have the capacity to love, because if you are really indifferent, you cannot even get up the enough energy to hate him." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-can-only-hate-someone-whom-you-have-the-7734/. Accessed 9 Feb. 2026.











