"You can only really open yourself up so far to someone that you don't truly love - you keep something back when you know somewhere in your gut that this relationship is going to be forever"
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The subtext is slightly unsentimental, even transactional, and that’s why it feels contemporary. In an era of situationships and soft exits, “keeping something back” isn’t villainy; it’s self-preservation. She names the common strategy of maintaining an emergency reserve of selfhood when the relationship reads as temporary: don’t give away the most tender parts if you suspect you’ll have to pack them up again. There’s an implied critique of modern dating’s constant contingency planning, where people perform vulnerability while quietly holding onto an unshared drawer.
What makes the line sharp is its reversal of a cultural cliche. We’re told you open up to earn love; Perabo suggests love is the condition that makes full openness possible. The phrasing “is going to be forever” is telling, too: not “might” or “could,” but a future tense that pretends certainty while admitting it’s felt, not proven. It’s romantic, but with a bruise under it: the awareness that most relationships are provisional, and the self learns to ration accordingly.
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| Topic | Love |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Perabo, Piper. (2026, January 16). You can only really open yourself up so far to someone that you don't truly love - you keep something back when you know somewhere in your gut that this relationship is going to be forever. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-can-only-really-open-yourself-up-so-far-to-90538/
Chicago Style
Perabo, Piper. "You can only really open yourself up so far to someone that you don't truly love - you keep something back when you know somewhere in your gut that this relationship is going to be forever." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-can-only-really-open-yourself-up-so-far-to-90538/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"You can only really open yourself up so far to someone that you don't truly love - you keep something back when you know somewhere in your gut that this relationship is going to be forever." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-can-only-really-open-yourself-up-so-far-to-90538/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.









