"You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection"
About this Quote
The subtext is more radical than it first appears. In many spiritual and social systems, care is treated as currency: you get it by being useful, pure, self-sacrificing. Here, the Buddha punctures that bargain. If you deny yourself affection while offering it to others, you’re not being noble; you’re reinforcing the illusion that some selves are unworthy. That illusion is precisely what Buddhist practice targets: the clinging, aversion, and self-punishment that keep suffering on a loop.
Placed in the context of a leader-teacher speaking to people caught in hierarchy, shame, and anxious striving, the quote reads like preventative medicine. It doesn’t crown the ego; it steadies the mind. The intent is practical: you can’t cultivate compassion as a stable discipline while waging a private war against yourself. Loving-kindness (metta) isn’t meant to stop at the boundary of "me". It starts there, because that’s where most people quietly refuse it.
Quote Details
| Topic | Self-Love |
|---|---|
| Source | Help us find the source |
| Cite |
Citation Formats
APA Style (7th ed.)
Buddha. (2026, January 17). You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-can-search-throughout-the-entire-universe-for-32585/
Chicago Style
Buddha. "You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-can-search-throughout-the-entire-universe-for-32585/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-can-search-throughout-the-entire-universe-for-32585/. Accessed 10 Feb. 2026.






