"You cannot measure a man by his failures. You must know what use he makes of them. What did they mean to him. What did he get out of them"
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The quote also smuggles in a distinctly late-19th/early-20th century self-improvement ethic, the era when American success literature was busy turning biography into a kind of instruction manual. Marden, a major voice in that tradition, writes as if character is an engine and adversity is the fuel. There’s an implicit rebuke to both fatalism and the genteel obsession with reputation: the point isn’t to remain unblemished, it’s to remain responsive.
The rhetorical rhythm helps sell the philosophy. It starts with a flat prohibition ("You cannot"), then tightens the screw with a demand ("You must"), then drills down into a series of clipped questions. Those questions function like cross-examination, forcing the reader to picture failure not as a moment but as a relationship over time. Subtext: two people can experience the same defeat, and only one will be enlarged by it. The other will simply carry it like dead weight.
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| Topic | Learning from Mistakes |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Marden, Orison Swett. (2026, January 17). You cannot measure a man by his failures. You must know what use he makes of them. What did they mean to him. What did he get out of them. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-cannot-measure-a-man-by-his-failures-you-must-36619/
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Marden, Orison Swett. "You cannot measure a man by his failures. You must know what use he makes of them. What did they mean to him. What did he get out of them." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-cannot-measure-a-man-by-his-failures-you-must-36619/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"You cannot measure a man by his failures. You must know what use he makes of them. What did they mean to him. What did he get out of them." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-cannot-measure-a-man-by-his-failures-you-must-36619/. Accessed 11 Feb. 2026.












