"You can't always let people do their own thing"
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Control is the quiet villain in a lot of Peter Shaffer’s work, and this line wears that villainy like a clean suit. “You can’t always let people do their own thing” sounds like common sense - the kind of phrase a responsible adult drops to end an argument. Shaffer’s trick is that it’s also a confession. The speaker isn’t just setting boundaries; they’re staking a claim over someone else’s interior life, insisting that freedom is a luxury other people can’t be trusted to manage.
The wording matters. “Can’t always” is a rhetorical pressure valve: it concedes the liberal ideal in theory, then carves out a permanent exception in practice. “People” is conveniently vague, turning a specific act of domination into a general principle. And “their own thing” is dismissive on purpose, shrinking another person’s desire, art, obsession, or identity into a hobby - something unserious that can be corrected.
Shaffer, a playwright obsessed with devotion pushed into extremity (the ecstatic and the destructive), understands how coercion often enters through the language of care. In Equus, the adult world frames its interventions as protection, treatment, normalcy; the subtext is panic at unruly intensity. The line carries that same anxiety: the fear that if you actually let people pursue what they want, they might want the wrong thing, or want it too much, or want it in a way that exposes everyone else’s compromises.
It works because it sounds like prudence while smuggling in authority. That’s Shaffer’s recurring tension: the urge to civilize another person’s fire, and the suspicion that doing so is its own kind of violence.
The wording matters. “Can’t always” is a rhetorical pressure valve: it concedes the liberal ideal in theory, then carves out a permanent exception in practice. “People” is conveniently vague, turning a specific act of domination into a general principle. And “their own thing” is dismissive on purpose, shrinking another person’s desire, art, obsession, or identity into a hobby - something unserious that can be corrected.
Shaffer, a playwright obsessed with devotion pushed into extremity (the ecstatic and the destructive), understands how coercion often enters through the language of care. In Equus, the adult world frames its interventions as protection, treatment, normalcy; the subtext is panic at unruly intensity. The line carries that same anxiety: the fear that if you actually let people pursue what they want, they might want the wrong thing, or want it too much, or want it in a way that exposes everyone else’s compromises.
It works because it sounds like prudence while smuggling in authority. That’s Shaffer’s recurring tension: the urge to civilize another person’s fire, and the suspicion that doing so is its own kind of violence.
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