"You can't spend your life apologizing"
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The intent is pragmatic, even slightly defiant. Apologies are meant to repair a breach, not become a permanent residency. Law’s phrasing makes "apologizing" sound like a lifestyle choice, an occupation that consumes your available years. The subtext is that shame, if you let it, will happily volunteer to be your full-time job. And there’s a quiet critique of a culture that demands not just remorse but performance: the perfectly worded statement, the public reckoning, the repeated rituals of proving you feel bad enough.
It also reframes responsibility as forward motion rather than endless kneeling. The line doesn’t deny wrongdoing; it denies the usefulness of perpetual self-flagellation. In the entertainment world, where reputation management can replace actual growth, this lands as a refusal to let apology stand in for change. It’s a boundary: I can own my mistakes, but I won’t let them narrate my whole life. That’s not arrogance. That’s the difference between making amends and making a personality out of remorse.
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Law, Jude. (2026, January 17). You can't spend your life apologizing. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-cant-spend-your-life-apologizing-75251/
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Law, Jude. "You can't spend your life apologizing." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-cant-spend-your-life-apologizing-75251/.
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"You can't spend your life apologizing." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-cant-spend-your-life-apologizing-75251/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.






