"You have to water the flowers you want to grow"
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The metaphor also smuggles in a warning about selective neglect. “The flowers you want to grow” implies you’re already choosing what deserves your limited attention. Covey’s broader context, shaped by his habits-and-principles worldview, treats life as a system you can design through investment. If you say you want a healthier culture but only “water” quarterly targets, don’t be surprised when people wither. If you want a strong partnership but only feed your inbox, intimacy doesn’t magically photosynthesize.
What makes the quote work is how it reframes responsibility without sounding accusatory. Plants don’t fail morally; they respond predictably to inputs. Covey uses that predictability to undercut the common fantasy that potential is self-sustaining. Talent, like a houseplant, dies quietly while you’re busy being impressed by it.
It’s also a subtle rebuke to the modern appetite for hacks. Watering is not a shortcut; it’s a practice. The line flatters the reader with agency while stripping away excuses: if something isn’t growing, look first at what you’re actually watering.
Quote Details
| Topic | Self-Improvement |
|---|---|
| Source | Verified source: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Stephen Covey, 1989)
Evidence: So often the problem is in the system, not in the people. If you put good people in bad systems, you get bad results. You have to water the flowers you want to grow. (Habit 4: Think Win-Win (page varies by edition; seen as p.232 in at least one edition)). The short standalone quote (“You have to water the flowers you want to grow”) appears in Covey’s text as the final sentence of a longer paragraph in the Habit 4 / Think Win-Win section. The earliest primary-source publication I could directly locate in-text is The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (first published 1989). Many quote sites attribute it to later works (e.g., Daily Reflections for Highly Effective People (1994) or The 8th Habit), but those appear to be later reprints/derivations rather than the first appearance. I’m marking confidence as medium because I verified the wording via an online scan/flipbook excerpt rather than a publisher-provided facsimile of the 1989 first edition, and page numbers can differ substantially by edition. Other candidates (1) A New You (Nicola Cook, 2023) compilation95.0% ... You have to water the flowers you want to grow . ' STEPHEN COVEY , AUTHOR As well as maintaining ongoing positive... |
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