"You learn to speak by speaking, to study by studying, to run by running, to work by working; in just the same way, you learn to love by loving"
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France builds the case for love as a verb, not a verdict. The line marches forward on repetition and rhythm: speak by speaking, study by studying, run by running. It’s almost comically obvious, the kind of truism you’d hear from a stern teacher. That’s the trick. By the time he arrives at the supposedly loftier subject, “love,” the reader has already agreed to the premise. Love gets smuggled out of the realm of destiny and into the realm of practice.
The subtext is a quiet rebuke to the romantic alibi: I can’t love until I feel it. France suggests feeling is often downstream from action. You don’t wait for fluency before you talk; you talk badly, publicly, and improve through friction. Applied to love, that’s both tender and unsettling. It implies love can be trained - through attention, patience, habitual care - and that neglect is also a practice with predictable results.
As a late-19th-century French novelist and skeptic with an eye for bourgeois self-deception, France is pushing against sentimental metaphysics. He’s also sidestepping moral grandstanding. The sentence doesn’t preach sacrifice or purity; it speaks the language of craft. Love, like work, is repetitive, sometimes unglamorous, occasionally performed before it’s fully “real.” That’s why it still lands: it offers a democratic, actionable theory of intimacy, one that flatters neither our fantasies nor our excuses.
The subtext is a quiet rebuke to the romantic alibi: I can’t love until I feel it. France suggests feeling is often downstream from action. You don’t wait for fluency before you talk; you talk badly, publicly, and improve through friction. Applied to love, that’s both tender and unsettling. It implies love can be trained - through attention, patience, habitual care - and that neglect is also a practice with predictable results.
As a late-19th-century French novelist and skeptic with an eye for bourgeois self-deception, France is pushing against sentimental metaphysics. He’s also sidestepping moral grandstanding. The sentence doesn’t preach sacrifice or purity; it speaks the language of craft. Love, like work, is repetitive, sometimes unglamorous, occasionally performed before it’s fully “real.” That’s why it still lands: it offers a democratic, actionable theory of intimacy, one that flatters neither our fantasies nor our excuses.
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