"You make sacrifices to become a mother, but you really find yourself and your soul"
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The intent feels quietly corrective, aimed at a society that praises “selfless” mothers while also punishing them for changing. Hargitay’s word choice matters. “Find yourself” suggests discovery rather than obligation, an identity you don’t perform for approval but stumble into through daily intimacy and responsibility. Adding “and your soul” pushes it past lifestyle advice into something like spiritual testimony. It’s not just “I learned patience”; it’s “I met a deeper version of me.”
Context sharpens the subtext. As an actress whose public persona is tied to empathy and advocacy, Hargitay speaks from a space where motherhood is scrutinized as brand, politics, and personal life all at once. The quote negotiates that spotlight: it validates the hard parts without romanticizing martyrdom, then claims a payoff that’s internal, not Instagrammable. It’s a cultural counteroffer: motherhood can be costly, and still be a portal to selfhood rather than its disappearance.
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| Topic | Mother |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Hargitay, Mariska. (2026, January 16). You make sacrifices to become a mother, but you really find yourself and your soul. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-make-sacrifices-to-become-a-mother-but-you-88468/
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Hargitay, Mariska. "You make sacrifices to become a mother, but you really find yourself and your soul." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-make-sacrifices-to-become-a-mother-but-you-88468/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"You make sacrifices to become a mother, but you really find yourself and your soul." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-make-sacrifices-to-become-a-mother-but-you-88468/. Accessed 5 Feb. 2026.






