"You may choose your words like a connoisseur, And polish it up with art, But the word that sways, and stirs, and stays, Is the word that comes from the heart"
About this Quote
The engine of the stanza is its pivot from aesthetic pleasure to bodily effect. "Sways, and stirs, and stays" moves in a simple escalation: persuasion, emotion, memory. The line is built to be remembered because it describes memory; it’s a mnemonic about mnemonics. Wilcox’s subtext is almost populist: audiences are not won by linguistic gatekeeping but by felt sincerity. That message mattered in an era when elocution, etiquette, and literary taste were bound up with social rank, and when mass print culture was expanding the market for accessible, inspirational verse.
Still, she’s savvy enough to smuggle artistry into her argument. The poem is meticulously rhymed and rhythmically clean; the "heart" she champions arrives on a carefully engineered beat. The intent, then, is double: to authorize emotion as a legitimate form of authority, and to remind writers that authenticity is not the opposite of technique - it’s what technique is for.
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| Topic | Love |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Wilcox, Ella Wheeler. (2026, January 17). You may choose your words like a connoisseur, And polish it up with art, But the word that sways, and stirs, and stays, Is the word that comes from the heart. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-may-choose-your-words-like-a-connoisseur-and-47495/
Chicago Style
Wilcox, Ella Wheeler. "You may choose your words like a connoisseur, And polish it up with art, But the word that sways, and stirs, and stays, Is the word that comes from the heart." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-may-choose-your-words-like-a-connoisseur-and-47495/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"You may choose your words like a connoisseur, And polish it up with art, But the word that sways, and stirs, and stays, Is the word that comes from the heart." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-may-choose-your-words-like-a-connoisseur-and-47495/. Accessed 24 Feb. 2026.








