"You must begin to think of yourself as becoming the person you want to be"
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Self-help slogans often coast on vagueness; Viscott’s line lands because it smuggles a clinical thesis into a single, slightly bossy sentence. “You must” isn’t gentle affirmation. It’s prescription. Coming from a psychologist who wrote for mainstream readers during the late-20th-century boom in pop psychology, the imperative reflects a therapeutic culture increasingly interested in agency: not just understanding your past, but rehearsing your future.
The key move is the grammatical sleight of hand: “think of yourself as becoming.” He doesn’t demand you already be the person you want to be, which would trigger the familiar shame spiral. He also doesn’t let you hide in “one day” fantasies. “Becoming” is a bridge word, a psychological halfway house where change is allowed to be unfinished without being optional. Identity here isn’t a static label; it’s a process you’re responsible for authoring.
Subtextually, the quote targets a common obstacle in therapy: people try to change behaviors while clinging to an old self-concept. If you still think of yourself as “the type of person who can’t,” every new habit feels like an exception, fragile and temporary. Viscott is pushing a cognitive reframe: the story you tell about who you are sets the ceiling for what you’ll attempt, tolerate, and repeat. It’s less manifesting than pre-commitment. Start relating to yourself as a work in progress, and your choices stop feeling like auditions and start feeling like evidence.
The key move is the grammatical sleight of hand: “think of yourself as becoming.” He doesn’t demand you already be the person you want to be, which would trigger the familiar shame spiral. He also doesn’t let you hide in “one day” fantasies. “Becoming” is a bridge word, a psychological halfway house where change is allowed to be unfinished without being optional. Identity here isn’t a static label; it’s a process you’re responsible for authoring.
Subtextually, the quote targets a common obstacle in therapy: people try to change behaviors while clinging to an old self-concept. If you still think of yourself as “the type of person who can’t,” every new habit feels like an exception, fragile and temporary. Viscott is pushing a cognitive reframe: the story you tell about who you are sets the ceiling for what you’ll attempt, tolerate, and repeat. It’s less manifesting than pre-commitment. Start relating to yourself as a work in progress, and your choices stop feeling like auditions and start feeling like evidence.
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| Topic | Self-Improvement |
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