"You think intercourse is a private act; it's not, it's a social act. Men are sexually predatory in life; and women are sexually manipulative. When two individuals come together and leave their gender outside the bedroom door, then they make love"
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The mid-sentence pivot matters. After painting gender as a battlefield, she offers a conditional escape hatch: leaving gender "outside the bedroom door". That's not a cute metaphor; it's an almost impossible demand. Dworkin's subtext is that "making love" isn't a synonym for intercourse, it's an achievement - a rare act that requires dismantling roles that usually structure desire itself. The quote works because it refuses sentimentality while still making room for intimacy, but only on radical terms.
Context sharpens the edge. Dworkin wrote in the wake of second-wave feminism's fights over rape, pornography, and domestic violence, when "sex positivity" was consolidating and the culture was eager to label her anti-sex. This line shows the opposite: she isn't condemning pleasure; she's indicting the conditions under which pleasure is routinely negotiated.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Dworkin, Andrea. (2026, January 17). You think intercourse is a private act; it's not, it's a social act. Men are sexually predatory in life; and women are sexually manipulative. When two individuals come together and leave their gender outside the bedroom door, then they make love. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-think-intercourse-is-a-private-act-its-not-41059/
Chicago Style
Dworkin, Andrea. "You think intercourse is a private act; it's not, it's a social act. Men are sexually predatory in life; and women are sexually manipulative. When two individuals come together and leave their gender outside the bedroom door, then they make love." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-think-intercourse-is-a-private-act-its-not-41059/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"You think intercourse is a private act; it's not, it's a social act. Men are sexually predatory in life; and women are sexually manipulative. When two individuals come together and leave their gender outside the bedroom door, then they make love." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-think-intercourse-is-a-private-act-its-not-41059/. Accessed 19 Feb. 2026.









