"You think you can go into all those auditions not knowing who you are? The work came after I found my sense of self - when I wasn't so manic and desperate"
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The pivot to “The work came after” flips the usual mythology. We’re trained to believe success creates confidence, that credits manufacture selfhood. Lewis insists on the reverse: selfhood is the prerequisite that makes work possible, or at least sustainable. “Sense of self” isn’t self-help fluff here; it’s a professional tool. In an industry that rewards pliability and punishes neediness, knowing who you are lets you take direction without dissolving, hear “no” without turning it into a verdict on your worth.
Her most revealing words are “manic and desperate.” They’re blunt, unglamorous, and they drag the “grind” narrative into the light: ambition can masquerade as urgency, and urgency can read as volatility. She’s describing the emotional leakage that happens when you want the job to fix you. The subtext is protective, almost maternal: stop auditioning for validation.
Context matters, too. Lewis is a Black actress who built longevity in an ecosystem that routinely typecasts and sidelines. For performers navigating narrow roles and constant evaluation, a stable inner compass isn’t a luxury; it’s how you avoid being swallowed by the room.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Lewis, Jenifer. (2026, January 15). You think you can go into all those auditions not knowing who you are? The work came after I found my sense of self - when I wasn't so manic and desperate. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-think-you-can-go-into-all-those-auditions-not-151321/
Chicago Style
Lewis, Jenifer. "You think you can go into all those auditions not knowing who you are? The work came after I found my sense of self - when I wasn't so manic and desperate." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-think-you-can-go-into-all-those-auditions-not-151321/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"You think you can go into all those auditions not knowing who you are? The work came after I found my sense of self - when I wasn't so manic and desperate." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/you-think-you-can-go-into-all-those-auditions-not-151321/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.




