"You'd go to a Pakistani party, and the men and women would go in at the front door, and the women would go to the right, and the men would go to the left, and that was the last that we'd see of them until we were coming home"
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The subtext is in that small, telling “we.” It implies a visiting group - likely British, likely mixed - suddenly reorganized by someone else’s rules. “That was the last that we’d see of them” carries a bemused, slightly edged astonishment: not only are the genders separated, but social intimacy is rationed, managed, withheld. The phrase “until we were coming home” makes the separation feel total, not a momentary custom but the defining experience of the night.
Context matters: Scott, a mid-century British artist and establishment figure, is speaking from within a post-imperial moment when “foreign” customs were often described with a mix of curiosity and inherited authority. He frames the Pakistani party through spatial segregation because that’s what reads most legibly as difference to him - and because it quietly flatters the narrator’s own norm as the unspoken baseline. The quote works because it reveals two things at once: a genuine encounter with a distinct social code, and the observer’s reflex to translate that code into absence. The women aren’t depicted as present people; they’re rendered as a vanishing point.
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| Topic | Equality |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Scott, Peter. (2026, February 18). You'd go to a Pakistani party, and the men and women would go in at the front door, and the women would go to the right, and the men would go to the left, and that was the last that we'd see of them until we were coming home. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/youd-go-to-a-pakistani-party-and-the-men-and-73257/
Chicago Style
Scott, Peter. "You'd go to a Pakistani party, and the men and women would go in at the front door, and the women would go to the right, and the men would go to the left, and that was the last that we'd see of them until we were coming home." FixQuotes. February 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/youd-go-to-a-pakistani-party-and-the-men-and-73257/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"You'd go to a Pakistani party, and the men and women would go in at the front door, and the women would go to the right, and the men would go to the left, and that was the last that we'd see of them until we were coming home." FixQuotes, 18 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/youd-go-to-a-pakistani-party-and-the-men-and-73257/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.





