"Young men soon give, and soon forget, affronts; old age is slow in both"
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Then comes the turn: “old age is slow in both.” The symmetry is the point. Addison isn’t simply contrasting temperaments; he’s diagramming how time changes the physics of social life. Older people, he implies, ration conflict because the stakes feel higher and the energy cost is real. But once an offense lands, it lingers. Memory becomes an archive, not a stream. That slowness reads as prudence and as peril: fewer fights, longer feuds.
As a writer shaped by the essay culture of early 18th-century England - the coffeehouse public sphere, the cultivation of “polite” manners, the Protestant emphasis on self-command - Addison is doing moral journalism. He’s coaching a rising middle-class audience on managing reputation, anger, and sociability. The subtext is almost political: a stable society depends less on never taking offense than on having the ability to let it go. Youth provides that by accident; age must learn it on purpose.
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| Topic | Aging |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Addison, Joseph. (2026, January 15). Young men soon give, and soon forget, affronts; old age is slow in both. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/young-men-soon-give-and-soon-forget-affronts-old-75229/
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Addison, Joseph. "Young men soon give, and soon forget, affronts; old age is slow in both." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/young-men-soon-give-and-soon-forget-affronts-old-75229/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Young men soon give, and soon forget, affronts; old age is slow in both." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/young-men-soon-give-and-soon-forget-affronts-old-75229/. Accessed 4 Feb. 2026.









