"Your best friend and worst enemy are both in this room right now. It's not your neighbor right or left - and it's not God or the devil - it's you"
About this Quote
Cole, a prominent evangelical men’s writer in late-20th-century America, is speaking into a culture that often toggles between blaming external forces (society, temptation, “bad influences”) and outsourcing agency upward (“God will fix me”). His move is to collapse both escapes. Not God, not the devil: don’t spiritualize your choices into cosmic puppetry. Not your neighbor: don’t psychologize your failures into other people’s sabotage. You: the cause, the cure, the battlefield.
The subtext is practical and disciplining. It’s meant to provoke self-examination, yes, but also to cut off self-pity and grievance before they become identity. Calling the self both friend and enemy gives the listener a way to hold two truths at once: you have the capacity to protect your future, and the capacity to sabotage it with the same hands.
The “room right now” is the rhetorical masterstroke. It drags the message out of abstraction and into immediacy, turning a motivational insight into an altar-call moment: decide, repent, act.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Cole, Edwin Louis. (2026, January 17). Your best friend and worst enemy are both in this room right now. It's not your neighbor right or left - and it's not God or the devil - it's you. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/your-best-friend-and-worst-enemy-are-both-in-this-56111/
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Cole, Edwin Louis. "Your best friend and worst enemy are both in this room right now. It's not your neighbor right or left - and it's not God or the devil - it's you." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/your-best-friend-and-worst-enemy-are-both-in-this-56111/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Your best friend and worst enemy are both in this room right now. It's not your neighbor right or left - and it's not God or the devil - it's you." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/your-best-friend-and-worst-enemy-are-both-in-this-56111/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.











