"You're talking to someone who has been married to various people for the last 40 years of her life. Dating is not really something familiar. I've never really been a dater"
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The intent feels twofold. First, she’s drawing a boundary: don’t ask me to speak fluently about app-era courtship; my relationships have been structured around commitment, not the audition-like churn of dates. Second, she’s smuggling in a critique of dating culture without preaching. “Dating is not really something familiar” doesn’t romanticize marriage, but it does suggest that the supposed norm - casual sampling, endless first impressions - can be alien even to someone with plenty of relationship experience.
Subtextually, Channing is also protecting privacy while sounding candid. “Various people” is a gloss that acknowledges complication but refuses tabloid inventory. Coming from an actress, the line doubles as commentary on performance itself: dating requires a kind of role-play, while marriage, for all its mess, is a long-running production where the stakes are higher and the script less forgiving.
Context matters: for women of her generation, “dating” wasn’t always a prolonged lifestyle phase; it was a corridor leading to marriage. Her quip reveals the cultural shift - from courtship as a passage to dating as a permanent marketplace - and her amused distance from it.
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| Topic | Marriage |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Channing, Stockard. (2026, January 16). You're talking to someone who has been married to various people for the last 40 years of her life. Dating is not really something familiar. I've never really been a dater. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/youre-talking-to-someone-who-has-been-married-to-135899/
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Channing, Stockard. "You're talking to someone who has been married to various people for the last 40 years of her life. Dating is not really something familiar. I've never really been a dater." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/youre-talking-to-someone-who-has-been-married-to-135899/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"You're talking to someone who has been married to various people for the last 40 years of her life. Dating is not really something familiar. I've never really been a dater." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/youre-talking-to-someone-who-has-been-married-to-135899/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.






