"A woman is like a tea bag - you can't tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water"
About this Quote
The intent is both consoling and mobilizing. Roosevelt isn’t romanticizing suffering so much as acknowledging a reality women of her time already knew: stability is frequently tested in private before it’s ever recognized in public. “Hot water” reads as more than generic adversity. It suggests scrutiny, scandal, war, economic precarity, grief, and the constant heat of expectations placed on women to endure without complaint. In Roosevelt’s case, the subtext is personal and political: a marriage marked by humiliation, a public role that required relentless composure, and a life spent turning constraint into platform. She became First Lady during the Depression and through World War II, then a global human-rights figure; pressure wasn’t an abstraction, it was her working climate.
Rhetorically, the line works because it refuses a flattering ideal of inherent toughness. It implies strength is measurable, legible, even communal: you find out what you can do by being forced to do it. There’s a sting in that pragmatism. The quote celebrates resilience while quietly indicting the system that keeps bringing the water to a boil.
Quote Details
| Topic | Resilience |
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| Source | Later attribution: A Woman's Worth (Nicole Farmer, 2019) modern compilation
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Roosevelt, Eleanor. (2026, February 7). A woman is like a tea bag - you can't tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-woman-is-like-a-tea-bag-you-cant-tell-how-16877/
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Roosevelt, Eleanor. "A woman is like a tea bag - you can't tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water." FixQuotes. February 7, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-woman-is-like-a-tea-bag-you-cant-tell-how-16877/.
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"A woman is like a tea bag - you can't tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water." FixQuotes, 7 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/a-woman-is-like-a-tea-bag-you-cant-tell-how-16877/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.





