"And we forget because we must and not because we will"
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For Arnold, forgetting isn’t a moral failure; it’s a survival mechanism with a Victorian pedigree. “We forget because we must and not because we will” pushes back against the comforting idea that memory is simply a matter of character or effort. The line lands like a quiet indictment of self-mythology: we tell ourselves we’ve “moved on,” but the truth is that the mind edits its own archive to keep the body functioning.
The sentence is engineered to sound like a hard-won concession. The paired opposites - must/will - turn forgetting into a drama between necessity and agency. “Will” suggests conscious choice, a liberal ideal of the self as sovereign. “Must” replaces that ideal with constraint, as if the psyche has its own laws, indifferent to our self-image. Arnold’s restraint matters: there’s no melodrama, only inevitability. That understatement is the subtextual flex. He’s describing grief, disillusionment, even cultural fatigue without naming any of them, letting the reader supply the ache.
Placed in Arnold’s broader worldview - anxious about modernity’s spiritual thinning-out, skeptical that culture can fully repair what progress erodes - the line reads as both personal and civilizational. Forgetting becomes the modern compromise: you can’t carry the full weight of loss, doubt, or history and still keep your place in the “march” of daily life. It’s not absolution; it’s admission. Arnold makes forgetting feel less like betrayal than triage, a necessary violence we do to ourselves so we can keep going.
The sentence is engineered to sound like a hard-won concession. The paired opposites - must/will - turn forgetting into a drama between necessity and agency. “Will” suggests conscious choice, a liberal ideal of the self as sovereign. “Must” replaces that ideal with constraint, as if the psyche has its own laws, indifferent to our self-image. Arnold’s restraint matters: there’s no melodrama, only inevitability. That understatement is the subtextual flex. He’s describing grief, disillusionment, even cultural fatigue without naming any of them, letting the reader supply the ache.
Placed in Arnold’s broader worldview - anxious about modernity’s spiritual thinning-out, skeptical that culture can fully repair what progress erodes - the line reads as both personal and civilizational. Forgetting becomes the modern compromise: you can’t carry the full weight of loss, doubt, or history and still keep your place in the “march” of daily life. It’s not absolution; it’s admission. Arnold makes forgetting feel less like betrayal than triage, a necessary violence we do to ourselves so we can keep going.
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| Topic | Letting Go |
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