"Any therapist will tell you that when you're ready, you will come out. To be outed means you weren't ready"

This quote by Billie Jean King speaks to the value of being all set to come out as LGBTQ+. Coming out is a deeply personal experience and it is necessary to be prepared before taking this step. Being outed, or having another person expose your identity without your approval, can be a traumatic experience. It can be damaging to one's sense of safety and security, and can cause feelings of shame and guilt. Any therapist will tell you that it is necessary to be all set before coming out, and that being outed can be a terrible experience. Coming out is a procedure that ought to be taken seriously and performed in a way that is safe and comfy for the person. It is necessary to put in the time to be ready prior to taking this action, and to be familiar with the possible effects of being outed.