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Humor & Life Quote by Garry Shandling

"Because I am afraid of commitment. This movie certainly has some bearing and is some reflection of my real feeling about relationships, because I do have commitment issues. My friends tell me I have intimacy problems, but they don't know me, so who cares what they think?"

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Garry Shandling turns self-disclosure into a trapdoor. He offers the audience a neat, therapized confession - commitment issues, intimacy problems - then kicks it away with a punch line that doubles as a defense mechanism: "but they don't know me, so who cares what they think?" The joke isn't just that he's contradicting himself; it's that the contradiction is the point. Shandling performs the classic intimacy bait-and-switch: invite closeness, then undercut it before anyone can get comfortable enough to ask follow-up questions.

The intent is slyly transactional. He's selling vulnerability while refusing its cost. Naming the problem in clean pop-psych terms gives the impression of insight and honesty, the kind of language that signals you've done the work. Then he mocks the whole process by discrediting his friends - the people closest to him - as if their perspective is irrelevant. That final shrug is the subtext: being known is scarier than being lonely, so he'll keep control by staying one step ahead of judgment.

Context matters: Shandling's comedy lived in the space between persona and person, especially in The Larry Sanders Show, where showbiz performance becomes a substitute for real connection. This line reads like that worldview distilled: relationships as a kind of set, sincerity as material, and humor as both a bridge and a barricade. It's funny because it's sharp; it's sharp because it's familiar. He lets you laugh at his evasions while recognizing your own.

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Shandling, Garry. (2026, January 16). Because I am afraid of commitment. This movie certainly has some bearing and is some reflection of my real feeling about relationships, because I do have commitment issues. My friends tell me I have intimacy problems, but they don't know me, so who cares what they think? FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/because-i-am-afraid-of-commitment-this-movie-111060/

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Shandling, Garry. "Because I am afraid of commitment. This movie certainly has some bearing and is some reflection of my real feeling about relationships, because I do have commitment issues. My friends tell me I have intimacy problems, but they don't know me, so who cares what they think?" FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/because-i-am-afraid-of-commitment-this-movie-111060/.

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"Because I am afraid of commitment. This movie certainly has some bearing and is some reflection of my real feeling about relationships, because I do have commitment issues. My friends tell me I have intimacy problems, but they don't know me, so who cares what they think?" FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/because-i-am-afraid-of-commitment-this-movie-111060/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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Garry Shandling (November 29, 1949 - March 24, 2016) was a Comedian from USA.

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