"Before I met my husband, I'd never fallen in love. I'd stepped in it a few times"
About this Quote
The intent isn’t anti-love; it’s pro-clarity. By reserving “fallen in love” for her husband, Rudner gives marriage a rare compliment in stand-up terms while still protecting herself with cynicism. The subtext is a familiar adult recalibration: what we once labeled “love” was often momentum, loneliness, lust, or storytelling. “A few times” adds sting because it implies a pattern - not tragic, just mildly ridiculous - the kind of repetition you laugh about because the alternative is admitting you were earnest.
Context matters: Rudner’s comedy persona trades in controlled neatness and observational precision, and this line fits late-20th-century stand-up’s skepticism about romance scripts sold by movies and greeting cards. It’s also a gendered wink. A woman comic claiming authority over her own emotional history - and doing it with a gross-out metaphor - sidesteps sentimentality without forfeiting tenderness. The laugh lands because it’s a confession that refuses to beg for sympathy.
Quote Details
| Topic | Husband & Wife |
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| Source | Unverified source: The Tonight Show Starring Johnny Carson (TV episode) (Rita Rudner, 1990)
Evidence: Before him, I'd never fallen in love. I'd stepped in it a few times.. The earliest primary-attribution lead I can verify via web sources is this line being delivered by Rita Rudner on an episode of "The Tonight Show Starring Johnny Carson" (episode guests listed as Judge Reinhold/Rondell Sheridan... Other candidates (1) What Would You Do If You Had No Fear? (Diane Conway, 2004) compilation95.0% ... Before I met my husband , I'd never fallen in love , I'd stepped in it a few times though . " RITA RUDNER A sign ... |
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Rudner, Rita. (2026, February 18). Before I met my husband, I'd never fallen in love. I'd stepped in it a few times. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/before-i-met-my-husband-id-never-fallen-in-love-134306/
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Rudner, Rita. "Before I met my husband, I'd never fallen in love. I'd stepped in it a few times." FixQuotes. February 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/before-i-met-my-husband-id-never-fallen-in-love-134306/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Before I met my husband, I'd never fallen in love. I'd stepped in it a few times." FixQuotes, 18 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/before-i-met-my-husband-id-never-fallen-in-love-134306/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.









