"But I can't bear it when somebody who some man made a pass at - to call that violence seems to me absurd and insulting to women who've really met violence, who've been raped or bashed"

In this quote, author Helen Garner expresses her aggravation with the term "violence" being used to explain a situation where a man has made a sexual advance towards a female. She thinks that this term is being misused and is insulting to women who have in fact experienced physical violence, such as rape or physical attack. Garner argues that identifying a guy's unwanted sexual habits as violence reduces the severity of real violent acts against ladies. She highlights the significance of acknowledging and addressing real violence against females, rather than utilizing the term loosely in circumstances where it might not apply.