"Girls are so queer you never know what they mean. They say No when they mean Yes, and drive a man out of his wits for the fun of it"
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The phrasing is telling. “Girls” rather than “women” keeps the subjects in a diminished, unserious category, primed to be scolded. “So queer” means odd, unknowable; it frames female interiority as a puzzle rather than a person. Then the most volatile move: “They say No when they mean Yes.” That’s not just a stereotype; it’s a cultural permission slip, a way of reinterpreting refusal as part of the game. The tag “for the fun of it” finishes the portrait by casting women as playful saboteurs, shifting responsibility away from the man’s inability (or refusal) to accept a boundary.
Context matters: Alcott wrote in a 19th-century moral universe where women were expected to signal desire indirectly and manage men’s feelings while maintaining “virtue.” The line captures the tension of that system: when directness is punished, ambiguity becomes a survival strategy, then gets recast as female perversity. Alcott’s real bite is in how effortlessly the complaint reveals the rules that produced it.
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| Topic | Romantic |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Alcott, Louisa May. (2026, January 18). Girls are so queer you never know what they mean. They say No when they mean Yes, and drive a man out of his wits for the fun of it. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/girls-are-so-queer-you-never-know-what-they-mean-23160/
Chicago Style
Alcott, Louisa May. "Girls are so queer you never know what they mean. They say No when they mean Yes, and drive a man out of his wits for the fun of it." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/girls-are-so-queer-you-never-know-what-they-mean-23160/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Girls are so queer you never know what they mean. They say No when they mean Yes, and drive a man out of his wits for the fun of it." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/girls-are-so-queer-you-never-know-what-they-mean-23160/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.





