"God, give us grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed, courage to change the things which should be changed and the wisdom to distinguish the one from the other"
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Its craft is in the choreography: serenity, courage, wisdom. The first word isn’t passivity so much as a refusal to waste moral energy on inevitabilities. The second isn’t bravado; it’s a summons to act where agency actually exists. Then comes the knife twist: wisdom, the rarest virtue, because the real battlefield is diagnostic. Most ethical failures aren’t failures of effort; they’re failures of discernment. We lash out at the unchangeable to feel powerful, or we baptize our fear as “acceptance” to avoid responsibility.
The subtext is unmistakably Niebuhr: humility about the limits of human control, paired with a sober insistence on political and personal accountability. He was a critic of utopianism and a defender of “Christian realism,” wary of movements that promise purity and end up excusing cruelty. Read that way, the prayer becomes a critique of every era’s favorite delusion: that history will be saved by certainty.
Its endurance, especially through recovery cultures and twelve-step communities, comes from how it reframes suffering and action as a single ethical task. It offers no grand theory, just a daily calibration of what is fated, what is fixable, and where we’re lying to ourselves.
Quote Details
| Topic | Prayer |
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| Source | Serenity Prayer — widely attributed to Reinhold Niebuhr (20th-century theologian); see Encyclopaedia Britannica entry "Serenity Prayer" for attribution and provenance notes. |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Niebuhr, Reinhold. (2026, January 18). God, give us grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed, courage to change the things which should be changed and the wisdom to distinguish the one from the other. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/god-give-us-grace-to-accept-with-serenity-the-14935/
Chicago Style
Niebuhr, Reinhold. "God, give us grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed, courage to change the things which should be changed and the wisdom to distinguish the one from the other." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/god-give-us-grace-to-accept-with-serenity-the-14935/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"God, give us grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed, courage to change the things which should be changed and the wisdom to distinguish the one from the other." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/god-give-us-grace-to-accept-with-serenity-the-14935/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.






