"Hope never abandons you, you abandon it"
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Hope, in Weinberg's framing, isn't a fickle visitor that comes and goes; it's a capacity you actively switch off. The sentence turns a sentimental noun into an ethical mirror. By refusing the usual story - life betrayed me, hope left me - he relocates agency where it hurts: in the person doing the narrating. That's classic therapeutic judo. It doesn't deny pain, but it blocks the easiest alibi.
The subtext is less inspirational than corrective. "Never abandons you" is a dare to notice the quiet ways people pre-empt disappointment: cynicism dressed up as realism, numbing as self-care, lowering expectations until nothing can be lost. Weinberg implies those moves aren't neutral; they're choices that protect the ego at the price of possibility. If hope is something you can abandon, it's also something you can retrieve, but not without admitting you dropped it.
Context matters because Weinberg, a psychologist and a key figure in challenging pathologizing views of homosexuality, spent a career watching how institutions teach people to give up on themselves. Internalized stigma is, in part, learned hopelessness: when the world keeps messaging that you don't belong, abandoning hope can feel like compliance, even wisdom. His line pushes back against that training. It's blunt on purpose, meant to puncture the romance of resignation.
Rhetorically, the inversion lands because it's accusatory in a productive way: not "cheer up", but "own your exit". It offers a hard kind of comfort - the only hope worth having is the hope you can still choose.
The subtext is less inspirational than corrective. "Never abandons you" is a dare to notice the quiet ways people pre-empt disappointment: cynicism dressed up as realism, numbing as self-care, lowering expectations until nothing can be lost. Weinberg implies those moves aren't neutral; they're choices that protect the ego at the price of possibility. If hope is something you can abandon, it's also something you can retrieve, but not without admitting you dropped it.
Context matters because Weinberg, a psychologist and a key figure in challenging pathologizing views of homosexuality, spent a career watching how institutions teach people to give up on themselves. Internalized stigma is, in part, learned hopelessness: when the world keeps messaging that you don't belong, abandoning hope can feel like compliance, even wisdom. His line pushes back against that training. It's blunt on purpose, meant to puncture the romance of resignation.
Rhetorically, the inversion lands because it's accusatory in a productive way: not "cheer up", but "own your exit". It offers a hard kind of comfort - the only hope worth having is the hope you can still choose.
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