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Love & Passion Quote by Joan Rivers

"I blame my mother for my poor sex life. All she told me was 'the man goes on top and the woman underneath.' For three years my husband and I slept in bunk beds"

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Joan Rivers takes a private failure and weaponizes it into a joke about public ignorance, using the oldest trick in sex comedy: pretending to misunderstand instructions so literally that the “mistake” becomes a cartoon. The setup sounds like the boilerplate of bad sex education - vague, moralizing, stripped of pleasure. Then she snaps the frame with the punchline: not awkward intercourse, but bunk beds, a domestic image so aggressively unsexy it becomes surreal.

The intent isn’t just to get a laugh off prudish parenting. Rivers is skewering a whole mid-century script where mothers pass down “guidance” that’s really censorship, and women are expected to navigate marriage with a blindfold on. The subtext is sharp: if your culture teaches sex as a mechanical hierarchy (“man on top”), don’t be surprised when people treat it like furniture assembly. Her persona - brash, self-deprecating, relentless - lets her say the forbidden part out loud: women’s sexual dissatisfaction isn’t some personal defect; it’s a predictable outcome of silence and shame.

Context matters: Rivers built a career by dragging taboo topics into the spotlight, especially the humiliations and absurdities packed into heteronormative marriage. The joke’s misdirection also protects her; she can criticize patriarchy, parental repression, and marital disappointment while hiding behind the plausible deniability of “just a one-liner.” That’s Rivers at her best: comedy as a battering ram, wrapped in rhinestones.

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APA Style (7th ed.)
Rivers, Joan. (2026, January 17). I blame my mother for my poor sex life. All she told me was 'the man goes on top and the woman underneath.' For three years my husband and I slept in bunk beds. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-blame-my-mother-for-my-poor-sex-life-all-she-32047/

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Rivers, Joan. "I blame my mother for my poor sex life. All she told me was 'the man goes on top and the woman underneath.' For three years my husband and I slept in bunk beds." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-blame-my-mother-for-my-poor-sex-life-all-she-32047/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I blame my mother for my poor sex life. All she told me was 'the man goes on top and the woman underneath.' For three years my husband and I slept in bunk beds." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-blame-my-mother-for-my-poor-sex-life-all-she-32047/. Accessed 10 Feb. 2026.

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Joan Rivers (born June 8, 1933) is a Comedian from USA.

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