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Humor & Life Quote by Bill Hicks

"I don't mean to sound bitter, cold, or cruel, but I am, so that's how it comes out"

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The line lands like a shrug that turns into a knife. Hicks opens with the familiar social lubricant - “I don’t mean to...” - the little disclaimer people use to keep their self-image intact while still delivering the hit. Then he detonates it: “but I am.” The joke is structural. He pretends to offer politeness, then admits the politeness was always fake. That snap from etiquette to confession is where the laugh lives, and where the critique starts.

Hicks is doing more than self-deprecation. He’s mocking the audience’s demand that truth arrive in a palatable costume. “Bitter, cold, or cruel” aren’t just moods; they’re labels society slaps on anyone who refuses the therapeutic, upbeat script. By owning the labels, he steals their power. If you admit you’re cruel, you’re no longer pleading for permission. You’re daring people to deal with what you’re saying instead of how you’re saying it.

The subtext is Hicks’s signature war on hypocrisy: America’s preference for cheerful lies over uncomfortable honesty, the way consumer culture sells “good vibes” as a moral obligation. Coming out of the late-80s/early-90s stand-up scene - slick, sitcom-adjacent, increasingly safe - Hicks positioned himself as the guy who wouldn’t sand down the edges. This line is his mission statement in miniature: don’t ask for kindness; expect clarity. And if it stings, maybe the sting is the point.

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APA Style (7th ed.)
Hicks, Bill. (n.d.). I don't mean to sound bitter, cold, or cruel, but I am, so that's how it comes out. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-mean-to-sound-bitter-cold-or-cruel-but-i-14317/

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Hicks, Bill. "I don't mean to sound bitter, cold, or cruel, but I am, so that's how it comes out." FixQuotes. Accessed February 2, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-mean-to-sound-bitter-cold-or-cruel-but-i-14317/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I don't mean to sound bitter, cold, or cruel, but I am, so that's how it comes out." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/i-dont-mean-to-sound-bitter-cold-or-cruel-but-i-14317/. Accessed 2 Feb. 2026.

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Bill Hicks (December 16, 1961 - February 26, 1994) was a Comedian from USA.

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