"I think the most attractive thing is a sense of humour. If someone can make you laugh, you've gotten a lot out of the way"

Attractiveness here is reframed as an active quality that emerges between people rather than a static trait someone carries alone. A sense of humour signals agility of mind, comfort with imperfection, and the ability to notice life’s absurdities without being crushed by them. Shared laughter becomes a rapid way to test compatibility: timing, taste, boundaries, and worldview surface within a few jokes or a playful exchange. When someone can make you laugh, you’re already dancing in sync with their rhythm.

“You’ve gotten a lot out of the way” points to the most cumbersome early barriers, self-consciousness, fear of judgment, and the subtle negotiation of status that colors new interactions. Humour defuses all of that. It invites both people to exhale, to admit their humanity, and to move from performance to presence. Neurochemically, laughter releases tension and fosters trust; socially, it communicates warmth and openness; psychologically, it signals resilience. If you can laugh together, you can probably navigate the inevitable awkwardness, missteps, and stress that come later.

This attraction is not merely romantic. Teams bond faster when someone can introduce levity without trivializing the work. Families heal rifts when a gentle joke breaks stalemates. In friendships, the person who can brighten a hard day becomes indispensable. The appeal is less about being the funniest person in the room and more about creating a shared pocket of safety where joy is permitted.

Of course, the content and target of humour matter. Laughter that is punching down or masking contempt doesn’t build connection; it corrodes it. The charm lies in empathy: reading the room, inviting others in, and revealing confidence without cruelty. Ultimately, humour is a shortcut to vulnerability. Once two people can laugh together, they can tell the truth more easily, admit fears, and imagine futures. That ease is attractive because it hints at sustainability: a relationship, of any kind, capable of weathering discomfort with grace and a grin.