"If only the strength of the love that people feel when it is reciprocated could be as intense and obsessive as the love we feel when it is not; then marriages would be truly made in heaven"
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The intent is satirical, but not airy. Elton’s comedy has long lived in the space where a laugh is a delivery system for social diagnosis, and here the diagnosis is about narrative hunger. Unrequited love has plot: it turns every glance into evidence, every text delay into prophecy. Reciprocated love has logistics. It asks for patience, negotiation, a shared calendar. Elton is pointing at how easily we mistake emotional volatility for depth. The “strength” we celebrate in doomed crushes often comes from scarcity and thwarted desire, not from the beloved being objectively extraordinary.
The subtext is slightly bleak: our cultural scripts train us to chase intensity, then act surprised when stability feels like the volume got turned down. Romantic media rewards longing, not maintenance, so we learn to read anxiety as chemistry. Elton’s line needles the fantasy that the right match guarantees bliss, suggesting the real obstacle is us: our appetite for the high of not knowing, even while we claim to want the security of being chosen.
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| Topic | Love |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Elton, Ben. (n.d.). If only the strength of the love that people feel when it is reciprocated could be as intense and obsessive as the love we feel when it is not; then marriages would be truly made in heaven. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-only-the-strength-of-the-love-that-people-feel-121807/
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Elton, Ben. "If only the strength of the love that people feel when it is reciprocated could be as intense and obsessive as the love we feel when it is not; then marriages would be truly made in heaven." FixQuotes. Accessed February 2, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-only-the-strength-of-the-love-that-people-feel-121807/.
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"If only the strength of the love that people feel when it is reciprocated could be as intense and obsessive as the love we feel when it is not; then marriages would be truly made in heaven." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/if-only-the-strength-of-the-love-that-people-feel-121807/. Accessed 2 Feb. 2026.










